In general perception, the view of a confident person is usually considered arrogant, but in fact it is A Big No No.
So, don’t let yourself fall into the wrong view of this self-confidence issue, for more details, see the ideas below.
You don’t have to lie to yourself
People who try hard to come across as confident, for example, can mistakenly behave arrogantly simply because they don’t yet know what self-confidence really is or what it means to them. They will talk about someone in a meeting, because that’s what they think confident people do. They will voice their opinions without thinking about the repercussions, because they feel confident that people are making themselves heard. And they will set their sights forward, for confident men hold on to their guns.
Actually, that’s a lie. Pretend to be confident when you see yourself trying to do a series of things about self-confidence, without ever asking yourself what your real self-confidence is.
You don’t have to fake your confidence, because you already have it. There are times when you are at your best, times when you love yourself above all else, and times when things happen the way you want them to. Get to know yourself, and you will know what self-confidence means to you.
You don’t have to be the best
The thought that “I could have done it better, faster, better” will only lead you to arrogance, where you will elevate yourself to a place where your accomplishments feel unmatched. Here’s the thing: I’m good enough, but I’m not very good, and the simple acknowledgment that other people are much better than me is very important.
In this world, there will always be someone more experienced or more talented than you, but this is what arrogant people don’t get; that there are absolutely no facts that can diminish your experience, talent, and value.
Confident people, on the other hand, are always ready to see the best in others, and know that doing so is not a judgment about them.
You Don’t Need To Hide It
Being the center of attention is like terror to most people, and they will build high walls to protect themselves.
For arrogant people, they will show others that their walls are full of colors that reveal themselves. They prefer to blame others than be labeled as having faults, and they will happily shirk responsibility until they feel they have won.
Such behavior is nothing more than hiding behind a building for fear that their true selves will be revealed.
In this way, sometimes the people with the highest opinions of themselves are often the ones with the lowest self-esteem.
So, it may come as no surprise that trust is a foundation that builds on the idea of ’it’s okay to be vulnerable’. It’s like a layer of confidence that allows you to take a few bricks from that wall and know that you’re going to be okay, to really show up to other people for who you really are.
Real confidence is a belief, and not a guess.
Pride and self-confidence are two very different things.
Make sure you know the difference.